First of all, maintaining your grades is completely hard to do when you work 40 hours in the overnight shift of a psychiatric hospital. Maintaining your grades is hard to do when you work another part-time job on top of that and your immediate boss decides to speak in a condescending tone.
Maintaining your grades was supposed to be an easy-peasy-lemon-squeasy thing you did this semester, Frances and you have failed.
You have failed to uphold deadlines and meet certain criteria’s for class. You have failed to write papers, write progress notes, chart your progress notes and you going into debt doing so. Yes, Frances, the student loans are still there even when you do not go to class. And yes Frances, you will have to pay back Financial Aid once they’ve calculated all the failed to write papers, progress notes, charts of the progress notes so be prepared to go further into debt doing so.
I thought you could juggle the failed relationship, the ever-changing but yet-and-still-positive mindset, your brand new puppy, your part-time job, your full-time job, and your full-time class schedule, but you did not, Frances.
Maintaining your grades is difficult REGARDLESS of trying to put it on top all the other demanding things you have in your life. Frances, do not harp on the mistakes of this semester, instead learn from them.
Learn to listen to your body. Listen to your intuition telling you, you’re piling on too much. Listen to your intuition telling you that he was no good for you and that you should have discontinued the relationship the moment you knew he would not change his ill behavior.
But he is on the other side of the world and you are still here with a plate running over with things to do, dogs to get potty-trained, sleep to gather, social but also non-social life to be had. That sentence, like this one, was a fragment.
Pace yourself next time.
Stop trying to move through life so fast.
Take a moment to appreciate what you have instead of working to get the next best thing.
Love yourself enough to know when enough is enough.
Visit your “Little.” (Take time out of your day to mentor your elementary schooled student to let her know that mistakes are to be had, but they are not to define you.)
Continue to relish in your gratefulness and happiness. (Frances, I want to congratulate you on your continued happiness during, what is supposed to be, sad and rough times. You failed those classes with a bright smile and a clear face. Thank you for taking care of yourself the best you thought you could. You are doing amazing, sweetie. Congrats on being happy. Congrats on the twenty pounds weight loss. Congrats, girl.)
Frances J. Hawkins 